Wednesday, February 29, 2012

What Is The Ego & Why Is It A Problem?

By Pamela J. Wells



Ego is when a person feels an inflated sense of self, feels superior to others, but also when he or she feels inferior to others—this is also the ego. The main thing that you need to remember is that ego (the false self that the mind creates), separates itself from others, picks and chooses who it likes and does not like. It discriminates. It judges. The only results that can come out of it are feelings of isolation, loneliness, misery, pain and suffering.

When we live our life from the ego, we feel that we have to compete with others in all areas of our lives, so as not to feel inadequate. We compete with everyone we come into contact with—our family, our friends, the person with whom we are in a personal relationship with, with acquaintances, and with people with whom we have barely met for the first time. We compete in our jobs, with our level of education, with our hobbies, by our “status” in society, which can also be referred to as our ego status—our false, imaginary status in society. It is just an idea of the mind, that is not real, that’s only purpose is to create separation.

When the ego is involved, there are two extremes. The ego (the I) says, “I must have this!” It places strong expectations on others. It says, “I deserve this!” It demands. The other extreme is on the other end of the ego seesaw. It is still the ego (the I) when someone has low self-confidence, low self-esteem, where the person needs approval from others, so he or she can build up their ego. Both of these extremes will only leave you with feelings of lack and emptiness that can never be filled up. The ego (the I) wants recognition. It wants to be special.

Feeling and believing that you deserve great things in life is not the same thing as feeling that you deserve more than others. Thinking and feeling that you deserve more than others is about ego and the empty feeling that you need to fill yourself up at the expense of others, looking down on others, using what you have to build yourself up onto a pedestal. You deserve great things in life because you are a great person who is kind and compassionate with yourself and others. You live your life from your true nature instead of from the ego. It is not about being better than others, having more than others, looking better than others, being smarter, or being faster than others. Freedom comes from releasing the ego and being selfless; and, acceptance comes from accepting yourself and others 100%, believing and knowing that you deserve a great life and others deserve a great life as well.

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Saturday, February 25, 2012

Would You Like Some Tea?

By Pamela J. Wells


When you are kind and accepting of others, it is like an invitation, a greeting that says, “You are welcome here. Come inside. Sit down and have a cup of tea with me.” When you are unkind and critical of others, it is like an eviction notice that says, “Get out! You are not welcome here!” If you are kind and accepting of yourself, you are kind and accepting of others.


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Friday, February 24, 2012

Being Consciously Aware

By Pamela J. Wells

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When you are consciously aware, you are 100% present and consciously aware of your thoughts, what you are doing, what you see, hear, smell, feel. You are fully present and not off somewhere else in your mind. You are not thinking about the past or the future. You are mentally present and aware of what you are doing at that moment.



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When you are 100% selfless, placing no expectations on others,
no conditions, the wall of separation vanishes. 

~Pamela J. Wells


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Thursday, February 23, 2012

Daily Inspiration


Today is a new day, a new beginning. With the paintbrush in my hand and the canvass in front of me, I can paint it any way that I want, full of bright and vibrant colors.

— Pamela J. Wells

Daily Inspiration

Like a fresh flower waking up, absorbing the sun as it begins to rise, every day is a new day to start fresh, energized and full of life, uplifted and inspired, the energy of the sun raises you up for a new beginning.


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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Being Comfortable With The Way Things Are

By Pamela J. Wells

Why do we replace the things that we want to do, that is our passion, that improves our lives—with other things—with distractions? Are we escaping from ourselves and our life? Are we comfortable with our misery? Are we comfortable with our pain? Are we comfortable with our suffering. Are we comfortable with our insecurities? Are we comfortable with our lives the way that they are and is it easier to remain in that comfort? Are we comfortable with complaining? Are we comfortable with being unhappy? We want to be happy, but we settle for unhappiness, for comfort, as though it is our identity. Do we let others opinions of us shape our identity that we have come to believe is who we are, so we give up on ourselves, we give up on life?

What do you tell yourself that keeps you immobile and keeps your life stagnate? Do you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, that you’re a failure? You have the opportunity to “See” your thoughts and how destructive they are and change them to positive ones. You have the opportunity to shakeup your comfort zone and start living your life the way that you truly want to live it.


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Sunday, February 19, 2012

Peace & Bliss

By Pamela J. Wells

Your natural peace, that is within you, can only be felt when you are in awareness. Your mind takes you away from your peace. Release all thoughts of others, what you think of them, your opinions and judgments about them. Release all thoughts of yourself, what you think about yourself, your judgments about yourself. Whenever you see something or hear something and you find yourself getting upset or angry, you have moved out of awareness and into chaos, into mind and all of its attachments and emotion. Peace cannot be felt. Remember to return to awareness by recognizing what you are doing, when you start feeling upset or angry. That is your sign to return to awareness, return to silence. Go to a quiet place if you need to or are able to, so you can return to your peace.

Whenever you have an opinion, a thought about what you see or hear, judging what you see or hear—you are in the egoic state of consciousness. Releasing these opinions, thoughts, and judgments brings you back to your natural state of awareness. Awareness is always there without the thinking and speaking language. Awareness is there while you are seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and feeling; yet, awareness does not need the eyes, ears, nose, tongue, or touch. Awareness is there with or without your senses. Awareness is not effected by your emotions, which are a byproduct of your thoughts. There are no mental attachments, thus no emotional attachments to anything. No attachments to opinions, judgments, or beliefs. There is nothing to compare, to latch onto, to identify with.

This is when true peace can be felt inside. The mind and all of its delusional thoughts are absent. The ego is absent. The identity is absent. The individual is absent. You do not need your identity to be present and aware. Identity is just a bunch of labels you have placed upon yourself to describe who you think you are or who others have labeled you as. There are no labels there to identify you. All that is there is absolute awareness, conscious awareness, and being. If you can experience that for just a moment, you will tap into your higher self, which is serenity, peaceful and blissful.


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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Engulfed In Thoughts or Consciously Aware of Thoughts

By Pamela J. Wells



Most people walk around engulfed in thoughts and live their lives on mental and emotional auto-pilot. When you live your life like that, you act and react to everything instead of being aware of everything, what you think, what you hear, what you see. Instead of being the navigator of your life, you are the leaf blowing around in the wind by whatever comes your way. Going with the flow of life does not mean being blown around by life. The navigator navigates the wind, navigates their thoughts, gently, without struggle, pointing them to thoughts that are beneficial to him or her—thoughts that are positive and uplifting, and they make choices that come from a place of presence, peace, and joy and not from inner turmoil, negative emotions, anger, bitterness, or past regrets.


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Sunday, February 12, 2012

Happiness Is Fleeting. True Joy Comes From Within.


By Pamela J. Wells

We are happy when things go the way that we want them to, when we accomplish something, when we achieve a goal, when we win a game in a competition, or win a promotion. When things do not go the way that we want them to we are unhappy. When we do not get what we want and expect, we become disappointed and feel down.


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Thursday, February 9, 2012

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Children who are taught to love themselves 
and others go out into the world with 
confidence, kindness, and compassion. 

~Pamela J. Wells

Breath Relaxation Technique

Breathe-In slowly & Breathe-Out Slowly. 
When You Are Stressed, 
Remember to Focus On Your Breath. 
Release Your Thoughts, 
Relax Your Mind & Body.

~Pamela J. Wells~

Other People’s Perceptions of Us and the Meaning We Ascribe To Their Behavior

By Pamela J. Wells

How we perceive ourselves is usually based upon what others think about us, our family, friends, acquaintances. If they label us, we tend to believe what they say about us. How they treat us, also gets added to our perceptions of our self. If they treat us unkindly and call us names like stupid, then many times, we question if we really are stupid and begin to believe it. We have to stop ourselves in our tracks and stop believing our own faulty and false perceptions over the meaning we give to why we think others behave a certain way towards us. We have to really look at our thoughts and what we are thinking. Is it real, reality, or is it just someone lashing out at other people, because they are suffering or is it just an opinion, someone else’s or even our own, or a meaning that we have given to someone else’s behavior, such as labeling ourselves based upon their behavior towards us. And, we have to let go of our addiction to seeing ourselves and identifying ourselves as other people’s perceptions of us and the labels that human beings habitually use on one another.


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Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Take Nature With You

By Pamela J. Wells



Your true nature is with you wherever you go. When stress comes, remember nature and that it is always there within you. Go to a place of pure nature as many times as possible, where there is no rush hour, no drama, no stress, no anger, no fear, no emotional turbulence, no mind chatter, no talking—where you are not analyzing everything and anything, not thinking about problems. Your chattering mind is totally turned off, and you are able to see, feel, hear, and touch nature. Your mind is quiet. You are just, simply, being. You are in awareness only. Thoughts take you away from just being and awareness. Be like nature, the flowers, the trees, the sun, wherever you go and wherever you are—peaceful and serene. It is great when you are actually in nature, but when you take it with you, everywhere you go, and the more that you are in nature, the more that you will be able to experience your peace and tranquility within, no matter where you are. That is when you know you are truly at peace.


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Monday, February 6, 2012

Accepting & At Peace with Yourself

By Pamela J. Wells
Published: February 6, 2012

You have to accept yourself and be at peace with yourself without the need for approval from others. When you are able to release the need for acceptance from others, it is so freeing. It is like a heavy weight has been lifted off of you and you don’t get offended when someone says unkind things to you, judges you, or tries to belittle you; and you don’t get your feelings hurt when you are in a relationship with someone and they decide to end the relationship. You accept yourself and are at peace with yourself, regardless of whether that person is in your life or not. Their leaving does not define who you are. It is the mind that creates delusions, that creates meaning out of things that have no meaning. Accept yourself, believe in yourself, and do not try to convince yourself to accept yourself. It does not work. You have to feel it, believe it, and know it.


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Saturday, February 4, 2012


You are neither less than or more than 
anyone else, just as a tree is neither 
less than or more than a flower. 
True nature doesn’t discriminate. 
Only minds do.

~Pamela J. Wells

Friday, February 3, 2012


You Can Create And Navigate Your Life 
Much Better When You See And Choose 
Thoughts That Are Beneficial To You And Others; 
Rather Than Being Engulfed In Thoughts, 
Running on Mental And Emotional Autopilot.

~by Pamela J. Wells
Published: February 3, 2012

Thursday, February 2, 2012

We all breathe and exhale the same air, so how is it that some think that they are more superior to other life forms?

By Pamela J. Wells
Published: February 2, 2012


Accepting all life, we know that we all breathe and exhale the same air. It is not contained and only available and given to a select few. The ego, the human mind, thinks that it is special and therefore more deserving than others; yet, at the most basic level, each and every living being cannot live without oxygen. At all times, we are inhaling and exhaling the same air. It is the delusional mind that creates egoic fantasies to make up for perceived inadequacies.


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True Peace Is Within You & Not Outside Of You

By Pamela J. Wells
Published: February 2, 2012

When you know you are truly and wholly at peace, nothing external to you can change that. No one and nothing can push your buttons, because you no longer have buttons to push. Nothing can rattle you or take your peace away. Focusing on how unkind, rude, and hateful some people can be takes your peace away and causes you to feel anger and bitterness towards them. Their behavior has nothing to do with you. Whatever they are going through in their life is causing them to lash out at other people, or they may just be having a bad day. Maybe somebody pushed their buttons earlier in the day and was rude to them.

Expecting others to always be kind and respectful is a fantasy, a futile endeavor. Some people that you come across will be kind and some people will be rude. These are just tests that you are being put through over and over again until you come to the realization that your peace is within you and not outside of you. When you realize that, it is no longer a test, it just is what it is and nothing more. You no longer have an ego trying to defend itself, causing you pain and suffering. Just be as nature is, as a flower is, not judging anyone or anything.


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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Be Grateful For Your Family, Your Loved Ones

By Pamela J. Wells
Published: February 1, 2012

No matter what life situation you may find yourself in, be grateful for your family. Your loved ones are far more important than money, material objects, status, fame, and recognition. You must put it all into perspective. Look at the big picture. Even if you lost everything material to you, be grateful. Be grateful that you have your family. When you are struggling to make it, you are unemployed, and it seems like nobody will give you a break, don't give up. Keep your eyes and your heart open to the opportunities. You may just need to turn your focus into another direction. Many people are going through a hard time right now, with being unemployed and even homeless. Always remember that: 

What we cannot do by ourselves can, many times, 
be accomplished together, when we embrace one another.



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